Although Ellen’s death was the necessary kick in the pants to get busy livin’, I have been remiss in updating on her visits in Asia. The first scattering In Thailand I didn’t post about, because I probably did something somewhere I shouldn’t have, but I did update her sister on the whereabouts. I didn’t deface or defile anything, and I hope the Buddhas were accepting of the offering. In any case, it was made with compassion and thought.
Here’s a pic that Leslie sent in the meantime. This is not Ellen in Cambodia, this is Ellen in California.
Onto Cambodia. As I’ve mentioned, despite the fork in our trajectories, one commonality has always been the love of cooking and food. When we visited the garden in the preceding post, I knew that I could not scatter her there, but nearby seemed close enough. On the walk over, a frangipani flower dropped on me, wanting to be part of the event.
I found a bamboo stand in a tranquil corner, affixed the flower to a stalk, said a few words, and left a bit of her there. She would have liked Cambodia- other than tuk-tuk drivers, it’s pretty difficult to ascribe suspicious motives to most of the people. Or, that would have driven her crazy, who knows. Anyway, she’d have liked the spice garden.
So now she’s in Thailand and Cambodia. We enter Vietnam in about 5 days (I’d better get cracking securing a VPN…), and I’ll have to find some land on which to memorialize her there. No water.
Last, a little humor- Ellen had really great decorating taste, it always impressed me how she could beautify a space. Probably better than this company